Myths About Introverts (Yup, I’m one of them!)

13 Dec

Since I left my flash drive at my place before I left for my parents’ house yesterday and the first installment of my KL trip story is saved there, (why in the world didn’t I save it somewhere in cyberspace so I can access from any computer?) I’m going to share something else.

I’ve come across this interesting article/post about Introverts. And I think what was written there are 100% true, at least in my case. Yes, I am an introvert. And people usually think that I’m either  shy or a snob (myth!) (We’ll I’m the latter. haha… just kidding), so to shed some light to the extroverts or to those who can’t really understand us, a.k.a “oustiders of our world”, read the list of 10 Myths below that I’ve got from some else’s blog/site carlkingdom.com

**I specifically love #4 and #7.  Hmm… actually all of them, inlcuding his last line. hahaha… (words in purple are my own comments)

Here it is:

10 Myths About Introverts

an introvert panda? LOL (from google images)

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days. (I do not talk for the sake of talking. I practice the less talk, less mistake. 😛 Plus, I am more ‘talkative’ in my writings. )

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite. (I used to be shy but not really too shy. But like what was said, I do not interact just for the sake of interacting. I am not a people-pleaser)

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting. (I am not rude, but I can be very sarcastic. Actually I can be very good at being sarcastic. LOL)

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in. (So consider yourself lucky, if you made it to my friend’s list! 🙂 )

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts. (Yes as much as possible I avoid the spotlight even though that is quite impossible because of my mother’s job. People look at us and expect more from us. It sucks! That’s the very reason I didn’t join show business. hahaha…)

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time. (This is so TRUE. very true! I am such a daydreamer and I get lonely  too when I do not have someone to share things with . Thank God I have a few very close friends.)

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy. (Yeah no to mainstream! 😛 )

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them. (TRUE! So you have to be intellectually stimulating in order to get my attention.)

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up. (Wait, define first what ‘fun’ is. Because  what’s fun for you may not be fun for me. So don’t tell me that I missed half of my life when I didn’t join you in this month’s team building. Or don’t tell me I am not having fun when I stay at coffee shops alone – that’s my way of relaxin’ and it means ‘writing time’. )

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ. (Extroverts should not act as if there is something wrong with us -introverts when we respond in a way they didn’t like or expect. Live with the fact that we exist and carlkingdom’s author said it best: 

“You cannot escape us, and to change us would lead to your demise.” <– I made that up. I’m a screenwriter.  -carlkingdom.com

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4 Responses to “Myths About Introverts (Yup, I’m one of them!)”

  1. Hamza December 13, 2011 at 6:40 pm #

    I like to think of myself as an introvert, it’d be an honor if someone told me that I am one. I don’t think the panda is an introvert, he’s just sad.

    • Y December 13, 2011 at 11:16 pm #

      Hey Hamza, if you think you are an introvert, then you probably are one. I think no one can ever tell if indeed you are except yourself. 🙂

      About Mr. Panda, yes you might be right. He kinda look sad not introvert. LOL. I just googled ‘introvert’ and that panda appeared. LOL

  2. Addie December 14, 2011 at 3:32 pm #

    Myth #1 is so me. People often regard me as too reticent but once something sparks my interest, I became an instant Kris Aquino. Suffice to say, I’m actually a bit of both – intro and extro.

    So nice to get to know the introvert you.

    • Y December 14, 2011 at 8:23 pm #

      hahaha should I call you Krissy now? 😛 Well, I am the same when the topic is of my interest. My close friends are the witnesses. 🙂

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