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Admiring My Mother (re-blogged for Mom’s Day!)

12 May

*This is actually a post I made one year ago and I wrote it as a birthday gift for my mom last year.  And since on Sunday it is mother’s day, I thought I’d re-blog it as a tribute to my admirable mother. I changed a few words though so it would fit to the Mother’s day occasion.  You may read the original here: “Admiring My Mother.”

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Happy Mother’s Day!

I admire my Mother. She got a pretty tough job.  She may not have to address the problems of poverty like the president have to, but her ‘job’ is tough.  Maybe even one of the toughest in the world. Imagine being a wife, a mother, a grandmother, a daughter, a sister, a Church Pastor to 9 churches with at least 200 or more members each, a leader, a government consultant, a counselor, and a friend to some. And all these, rolled into one.

What I specifically admire about my mother is that she’s the same person she is inside and outside our house.  Meaning to say, she doesn’t pretend or have a multiple personalities. The compassionate, patient, understanding, helpful, kind-hearted person she is outside or in the church is the same person she is to us inside our home. And I think that is  one of the traits of a true leader.

Growing up, I see how my mother shown these traits. I remember us being in the bus ride to Manila from Lipa, and on our way there was this young woman with her little brother, moaning for a severe stomach pain. Her motherly instinct kicked in. She wasn’t selfish to think that she got 3 young kids to look after to (I think my youngest sister was barely 4 years old that time) and let another person help. But she was quick to extend a hand, prayed for her and even took her to the hospital as soon as we got off the bus. She also began charity at home. Even though she is already married and have kids to support to, she, together with my father, helped her sisters and brothers fund their studies. She didn’t cease in helping them, even until now that they have their own families.

She is patient. Very patient. It will take time for her to get angry. And when she does, please hide, you wouldn’t like it. 😀 I think it’s true that when a patient person loses his/her temper, it’s going be like  World War II. I’ve seen her pissed off. And unfortunately, it was because of me. Well, sometimes because of my sisters too. 😛 You don’t want to see her mad for sure. So you better not test her patience. Like any normal person she also gets angry, whether you believe it or not. 🙂

She is super nice and super kind. And “super” is not even the right word to perfectly describe how nice and kind she is. Serving the church as the Pastor, she has encountered countless problems, both personal and church-related. People come to her for advices, sometimes even for financial help, then there are some who questioned her ways, pressured her for something, sometimes to take their sides over someone’s or influence her decisions. But she won’t let it. She won’t give in. Instead, she prays for them and asks them to pray for those who hurt them. Sometimes, when the attack to her is personal (and sometimes even below the belt), it angers me, my sisters and father, but not her. She always reminds us to be gentle, to just pray for those who hurt us and just speak blessing to them instead.  Sure, her helpfulness, kindness and patience have influenced us, but I don’t think I inherited it 100%. I am not as patient and kind as she is. Sometimes I complain to her for being super nice. If it was me, I would get even! Hahahaha…. Just kidding. 😛

She’s forgiving. Like I mentioned, she just pray for those who hurt her. She didn’t grow up in a well-off family, but she strove hard to succeed. And that means, working at her Auntie’s restaurant while studying in high school at around age 13 I think. She wakes up early in the morning to go to the market, go home and help serve and prepare the customers’ orders, then go to school (and because of that, she’s late to school most of the time) and then go home in the afternoon, help her Auntie again, do her homework after and sleep late. That was her routine everyday for at least 4 years.  She wasn’t treated well by their family too but she didn’t have any bitterness in her heart. I cried when I first heard  that story. I felt sad and furious to hear what she had to go through. But she was quick to tell us how grateful she is to her Auntie’s family because she was able to continue her studies and help her mother and siblings get out of poverty. For her, it was her stepping stone to success.

I know I hurt her also so many times in the past for being somewhat rebellious and so my sisters and my father but she didn’t quit on us, but instead she forgives us for our shortcomings and imperfections.

I could list a lot of things about how admirable my mother is. She is not perfect but I think she possesses the Christ-like character and that’s what makes her truly admirable.

On Sunday, it is Mother’s day and I couldn’t think of a better gift to my own mom but to put into writing what kind of a person she is – a loving wife, mother, grandmother, sister, daughter, a patient Church Pastor, a humble servant and a true Christian.

Happy Mother’s Day Mama!

And to my oldest sister too and to all moms in the world! You are guys are awesome! 🙂

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Date A Girl Who Writes (In a Journal)

28 Feb

I’m not going to write a piece similar to that one  Rosemarie Urquico wrote: “Date A Girl Who Reads“, though I would love to have my own version but I guess she already nailed it, especially in the end when she said, “Or better yet, date a girl who writes. 🙂

I write. Well I’m not saying this so men (note: single men) should date me… okay, sure they can ask me out. LOL What am I saying?! I hope people wouldn’t think of this as an advertisement of myself being single or worst a desperate act to tell the world that “Hey! I’m not married. ” Nope. This is about writing. So let’s go back to writing anyway. 😛

I write a lot. It started in my high school years, after I discovered that I could write poems that made me a finalist in an international poetry contest sponsored by an organization in the US, or slogans chosen for a government-initiated program. My interest was even fueled when I had Journalism as my elective class. My teacher who is a Journalist herself encouraged me to write more after she read my articles for her class. At first I wasn’t sure about it – I was doubting my skills and thought that maybe it is better that I just take up any computer-related course in college instead of anything related to writing.  But it was also around that period when I started to keep a journal. Not a Diary. A JOURNAL. (Yes there are differences between the two and that deserves another blog entry.) 

I would write everything in my journal – my thoughts about my classes, movies, my favorite bands, my friends, my poems, favorite Bible verses or song verses, my crushes, scribbles, horrible drawings, everything! It was as if I found another best friend apart from the human friends I have – my Journal. I would pour out my thoughts and I would feel great every time I write them down. But it was also that journal that sent me to my own ‘prison cell’ when I left it in my room one day and my parents invaded my privacy  read what I wrote about puffing a cigarette and sipping beer for  curiosity’s and experience’s sake! Man! My parents freaked out and suspected I was also doing drugs! Why are parents so exaggerated sometimes? LOL. So it resulted to me being grounded for about two months or more. Oh blame my Journal! (Oh well, maybe that story too deserves another post.)

From then on, I would never leave my journal at home. Nope! I don’t want to be grounded anymore.  😛  Also because I need it when thoughts or ideas would pop up in my head. I will have to write it down instantly so I won’t forget. So I made sure it is inside my bag wherever I go. 😀 I also learned from the song-writing workshop I attended before that when you’re a writer or a composer, you have to keep a notebook with you all the time, because you do not know when a good song/poetry/story will come up.

Journaling also helped me survive the four-year Journalism course I decided to take up in college.  My journals then would not only contain stories about crushes, or favorite lines from the book or lyrical prose, but also writings about socio-political issues. You can say, the journal content has matured in time. (*Opps, matured content meaning relevant and serious topics on life and politics  but not  the “For Adults” only okay? LOL)

And now, despite having this blog (I started blogging in 2003 under a different name. Read: About Me) I still keep a journal. Every year I would buy cute notebooks or (since 2004) collect Starbuck’s planners and use it as my journal. Also I still have pens, pencils, eraser and a pencil case that you can find inside my bag. Yes, despite the high-tech computers, ipads and iphones  or other convenient gadgets where you can compose electronic messages or post on blogs,  I still keep a journal and write using my favorite pen.

My older sister and I share the same interests in any writing material. When we see cute notebooks, we would buy them, even if that means it will be kept in the drawers, unused. It’s only because I love to look at any cute writing material. 🙂 We call ourselves “Notebook Suckers” actually.

And during my trip to KL late last year, I found this store TYPO that sells awesome journals, notebooks, pens, etc… and I instantly fell in love with that shop! Oh how I wish we have TYPO in Manila! I found a journal in their store with a design that says “This Is My Blog”  – I would have bought it if not for the obvious damage on the cover. It was the last piece.  When I got back to Manila, I checked their website and saw a perfect one that I like – A red journal with an engraved Eiffel Tower design at the front.  Luckily, one of my church friends went to KL for work-related tour so I asked her to buy it for me and here it is:

My Eiffel Tower Journal by TYPO

Eiffel Journal by TYPO

It is so lovely. But for some reasons, I don’t want to use it. LOL Or not yet. I just want to look at it and smell it. I just love the smell of the paper. Well I already have a journal from Starbucks that I use this year that’s why. And I only keep one Journal a year and write almost everything there, though you’d find a lot of small pieces of paper or post it notes with my writings, either in the book I’m reading or inside the journal itself. Like my 2011 journal below:

2011 Starbucks Journal

2011 Journal and my disgusting hand writing and the post-it notes 😀

And here’s my 2012 Starbucks Journal:

2012 Starbucks Journal

I guess I’m still conventional in some ways – like keeping a Journal. Sure I appreciate the innovation and the advance technology we have in this era but I guess there’s still nothing like writing in a paper or journal or notebook. Oh give me a cute notebook/notepad/journal or even post it notes or pens, and you’d surely hear my sincere appreciation. I just love them.

So why is this post’s title then about Dating A Girl Who Writes (In a Journal)? Because I couldn’t think of a better title I guess. LOL. 😀  But on a side note, I think  a Girl or Woman who writes (whether in a journal or not) is someone who thinks deeply, who probably looks quiet or sometimes naive but is overflowing with intelligence and sound advices, who appreciates life and takes joy even from the simplest things around her, who is in touch with her emotions thus capable of understanding other’s emotions too, and someone who sees the beauty out of the ordinary.

So, a girl or woman who writes is someone not just worth dating but also worth marrying! 🙂

Quote – Women

27 Jan

You can tell a lot about a woman by her hands.
For instance, if they’re placed around your throat, she’s probably slightly upset.

😛

Date A Girl Who Reads By Rosemarie Urquico

17 Aug

** I love this piece by Ms. Urquico. I love reading it over and over and over, and I won’t even get tired and sick of reading it. It’s beautifully written and very true. I could relate. 🙂 

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by God, she’s going to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Asian, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

Admiring My Mother

3 Apr

I admire my Mother. She got a pretty tough job.  She may not have to address the problems of poverty like the president have to, but her ‘job’ is tough.  Maybe even one of the toughest in the world. Imagine being a wife, a mother, a grandmother, a daughter, a sister, a Church Pastor to 9 churches with at least 200 or more members each, a leader, a government consultant, a counselor, and a friend to some. And all these, rolled into one.

What I specifically admire about my mother is that she’s the same person she is inside and outside our house.  Meaning to say, she doesn’t pretend or have a multiple personalities. The compassionate, patient, understanding, helpful, kind-hearted person she is outside or in the church is the same person she is to us inside our home. And I think that is  one of the traits of a true leader.

Growing up, I see how my mother shown these traits. I remember us being in the bus ride to Manila from Lipa, and on our way there was this young woman with her little brother, moaning for a severe stomach pain. Her motherly instinct kicked in. She wasn’t selfish to think that she got 3 young kids to look after to (I think my youngest sister was barely 4 years old that time) and let another person help. But she was quick to extend a hand, prayed for her and even took her to the hospital as soon as we got off the bus. She also began charity at home. Even though she is already married and have kids to support to, she, together with my father, helped her sisters and brothers fund their studies. She didn’t cease in helping them, even until now that they have their own families.

She is patient. Very patient. It will take time for her to get angry. And when she does, please hide, you wouldn’t like it. 😀 I think it’s true that when a patient person loses his/her temper, it’s going be like  World War II. I’ve seen her pissed off. And unfortunately, it was because of me. Well, sometimes because of my sisters too. 😛 You don’t want to see her mad for sure. So you better not test her patience. Like any normal person she also gets angry, whether you believe it or not. 🙂

She is super nice and super kind. And “super” is not even the right word to perfectly describe how nice and kind she is. Serving the church as the Pastor, she has encountered countless problems, both personal and church-related. People come to her for advices, sometimes even for financial help, then there are some who questioned her ways, pressured her for something, sometimes to take their sides over someone’s or influence her decisions. But she won’t let it. She won’t give in. Instead, she prays for them and asks them to pray for those who hurt them. Sometimes, when the attack to her is personal (and sometimes even below the belt), it angers me, my sisters and father, but not her. She always reminds us to be gentle, to just pray for those who hurt us and just speak blessing to them instead.  Sure, her helpfulness, kindness and patience have influenced us, but I don’t think I inherited it 100%. I am not as patient and kind as she is. Sometimes I complain to her for being super nice. If it was me, I would get even! Hahahaha…. Just kidding. 😛

She’s forgiving. Like I mentioned, she just pray for those who hurt her. She didn’t grow up in a well-off family, but she strove hard to succeed. And that means, working at her Auntie’s restaurant while studying in high school at around age 13 I think. She wakes up early in the morning to go to the market, go home and help serve and prepare the customers’ orders, then go to school (and because of that, she’s late to school most of the time) and then go home in the afternoon, help her Auntie again, do her homework after and sleep late. That was her routine everyday for at least 4 years.  She wasn’t treated well by their family too but she didn’t have any bitterness in her heart. I cried when I first heard  that story. I felt sad and furious to hear what she had to go through. But she was quick to tell us how grateful she is to her Auntie’s family because she was able to continue her studies and help her mother and siblings get out of poverty. For her, it was her stepping stone to success.

I know I hurt her also so many times in the past for being somewhat rebellious and so my sisters and my father but she didn’t quit on us, but instead she forgives us for our shortcomings and imperfections.

I could list a lot of things about how admirable my mother is. She is not perfect but I think she possesses the Christ-like character and that’s what makes her truly admirable.

Today is her 53rd birthday and I couldn’t think of a better gift but to put into writing what kind of a person she is – a loving wife, mother, grandmother, sister, daughter, a patient Church Pastor, a humble servant and a true Christian.

Happy birthday Mama!

I like it on the couch!

10 Oct

Just this week, a lot of women in facebook – teens, young adults and even mothers posted intriguing messages on their facebook profiles. “I like on the couch; I like it on the bed; I like it on the kitchen counter; I like it on the floor; I like it anywhere” were the usual I’ve seen. These messages made a lot of their friends, mostly male friends intrigue and curious about what these messages mean. Well of course, we all know what they’re thinking. *wink! wink!* LOL.

If you’re a female, you probably have received a message in your inbox about how this game works. According to the email, the game started last year and turned out successful as it even made it to the national television what the women were up to! Well this isn’t a naughty message at all. The game’s purpose is to increase awareness on Breast Cancer as October is the Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

I won’t post it here how the game works but I’d like to share it here to help others be aware of Breast Cancer.

(I don’t own the pictures below. I just googled them and thought I’d post it here.)


Caffeine and PMS

21 Aug

In my recent visit to my doctor due to Upper RTI, he told me to cut down on caffeine.  Yes, coffee.  And the other day, while I was having coffee at my favorite coffee shop (yes, I’m bad. Not following my doctor’s order. hehe), I read from a magazine what caffeine and sweets can do to your body that eventually will result to the irritating mood swings.

So I did my internet research on caffeine and sweets about them triggering the mood swings in women.  I don’t exactly remember every words, but it says something like caffeine is a drug and it causes your body to be on a ‘fight or flight’ mode.  Caffeine triggers the release of the stress hormones that you may use to prepare yourself for a dangerous situation, like what they cited, a war. But like for me, who just sits at my desks at the office, it may not be necessary.  Of course, moderate consumption of caffeine is fine. Well, everything that is in moderation is better.

But my consumption is way beyond the moderation. I am a coffee lover. Or addict, whichever suits best. I love sweets too. Chocolates are my vitamins. =) haha… and it is so hard to resist them. Unfortunately according to my internet research, they both have effects on my body particularly in my mood.  And true enough, I experience mood swings. There will always be days or weeks in a month that I get annoyed easily, irritated, overly sensitive and become a crybaby.  I hate it. I don’t like the feeling. I don’t like undergoing such stage wherein one minute you are happy, but the next you are sobbing. That’s just so crazy. It doesn’t make me feel good and it affects my relationship to others. It even ruined my relationship with my ex. Damn.

Oh well, so now I am having this experiment on myself. I will not drink any coffee for a month and will really try to avoid anything with caffeine. Sweets…. I will also avoid them, especially chocolates. I will see what wonders  it will do to me and my moods. I will see if they are really the culprit to my everchanging moods.

So I am daring myself:

*No coffee or anything with caffeine for a month
*No sweets too

I just started two days back and I haven’t had any coffee. Weeeeee!!!!!

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