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Date A Girl Who Writes (In a Journal)

28 Feb

I’m not going to write a piece similar to that one  Rosemarie Urquico wrote: “Date A Girl Who Reads“, though I would love to have my own version but I guess she already nailed it, especially in the end when she said, “Or better yet, date a girl who writes. 🙂

I write. Well I’m not saying this so men (note: single men) should date me… okay, sure they can ask me out. LOL What am I saying?! I hope people wouldn’t think of this as an advertisement of myself being single or worst a desperate act to tell the world that “Hey! I’m not married. ” Nope. This is about writing. So let’s go back to writing anyway. 😛

I write a lot. It started in my high school years, after I discovered that I could write poems that made me a finalist in an international poetry contest sponsored by an organization in the US, or slogans chosen for a government-initiated program. My interest was even fueled when I had Journalism as my elective class. My teacher who is a Journalist herself encouraged me to write more after she read my articles for her class. At first I wasn’t sure about it – I was doubting my skills and thought that maybe it is better that I just take up any computer-related course in college instead of anything related to writing.  But it was also around that period when I started to keep a journal. Not a Diary. A JOURNAL. (Yes there are differences between the two and that deserves another blog entry.) 

I would write everything in my journal – my thoughts about my classes, movies, my favorite bands, my friends, my poems, favorite Bible verses or song verses, my crushes, scribbles, horrible drawings, everything! It was as if I found another best friend apart from the human friends I have – my Journal. I would pour out my thoughts and I would feel great every time I write them down. But it was also that journal that sent me to my own ‘prison cell’ when I left it in my room one day and my parents invaded my privacy  read what I wrote about puffing a cigarette and sipping beer for  curiosity’s and experience’s sake! Man! My parents freaked out and suspected I was also doing drugs! Why are parents so exaggerated sometimes? LOL. So it resulted to me being grounded for about two months or more. Oh blame my Journal! (Oh well, maybe that story too deserves another post.)

From then on, I would never leave my journal at home. Nope! I don’t want to be grounded anymore.  😛  Also because I need it when thoughts or ideas would pop up in my head. I will have to write it down instantly so I won’t forget. So I made sure it is inside my bag wherever I go. 😀 I also learned from the song-writing workshop I attended before that when you’re a writer or a composer, you have to keep a notebook with you all the time, because you do not know when a good song/poetry/story will come up.

Journaling also helped me survive the four-year Journalism course I decided to take up in college.  My journals then would not only contain stories about crushes, or favorite lines from the book or lyrical prose, but also writings about socio-political issues. You can say, the journal content has matured in time. (*Opps, matured content meaning relevant and serious topics on life and politics  but not  the “For Adults” only okay? LOL)

And now, despite having this blog (I started blogging in 2003 under a different name. Read: About Me) I still keep a journal. Every year I would buy cute notebooks or (since 2004) collect Starbuck’s planners and use it as my journal. Also I still have pens, pencils, eraser and a pencil case that you can find inside my bag. Yes, despite the high-tech computers, ipads and iphones  or other convenient gadgets where you can compose electronic messages or post on blogs,  I still keep a journal and write using my favorite pen.

My older sister and I share the same interests in any writing material. When we see cute notebooks, we would buy them, even if that means it will be kept in the drawers, unused. It’s only because I love to look at any cute writing material. 🙂 We call ourselves “Notebook Suckers” actually.

And during my trip to KL late last year, I found this store TYPO that sells awesome journals, notebooks, pens, etc… and I instantly fell in love with that shop! Oh how I wish we have TYPO in Manila! I found a journal in their store with a design that says “This Is My Blog”  – I would have bought it if not for the obvious damage on the cover. It was the last piece.  When I got back to Manila, I checked their website and saw a perfect one that I like – A red journal with an engraved Eiffel Tower design at the front.  Luckily, one of my church friends went to KL for work-related tour so I asked her to buy it for me and here it is:

My Eiffel Tower Journal by TYPO

Eiffel Journal by TYPO

It is so lovely. But for some reasons, I don’t want to use it. LOL Or not yet. I just want to look at it and smell it. I just love the smell of the paper. Well I already have a journal from Starbucks that I use this year that’s why. And I only keep one Journal a year and write almost everything there, though you’d find a lot of small pieces of paper or post it notes with my writings, either in the book I’m reading or inside the journal itself. Like my 2011 journal below:

2011 Starbucks Journal

2011 Journal and my disgusting hand writing and the post-it notes 😀

And here’s my 2012 Starbucks Journal:

2012 Starbucks Journal

I guess I’m still conventional in some ways – like keeping a Journal. Sure I appreciate the innovation and the advance technology we have in this era but I guess there’s still nothing like writing in a paper or journal or notebook. Oh give me a cute notebook/notepad/journal or even post it notes or pens, and you’d surely hear my sincere appreciation. I just love them.

So why is this post’s title then about Dating A Girl Who Writes (In a Journal)? Because I couldn’t think of a better title I guess. LOL. 😀  But on a side note, I think  a Girl or Woman who writes (whether in a journal or not) is someone who thinks deeply, who probably looks quiet or sometimes naive but is overflowing with intelligence and sound advices, who appreciates life and takes joy even from the simplest things around her, who is in touch with her emotions thus capable of understanding other’s emotions too, and someone who sees the beauty out of the ordinary.

So, a girl or woman who writes is someone not just worth dating but also worth marrying! 🙂

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Date A Girl Who Reads By Rosemarie Urquico

17 Aug

** I love this piece by Ms. Urquico. I love reading it over and over and over, and I won’t even get tired and sick of reading it. It’s beautifully written and very true. I could relate. 🙂 

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by God, she’s going to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Asian, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

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