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Quote – Women

27 Jan

You can tell a lot about a woman by her hands.
For instance, if they’re placed around your throat, she’s probably slightly upset.


High Maintenance? Me? Of course Not.

7 Nov

A few days ago my friend F and I were looking for the place to stay in KL through the internet and discussing about it over Skype. His requirements were simple – clean hostel, male-only dorm is available, shared bathroom isn’t a problem, safe place to stay and near the city center.

My requirements? Don’t even get me started. Haha… For this trip, I decided that I, too will stay in a Hostel, same hostel where my friend is staying. But before I even came into that decision, it took me a loooooong time (Read: WEEKS) to pick between staying in a Hotel or a Hostel. I was too concerned of the place I am staying since it will be my first time to visit the country.

The hostel we picked looks nice and clean. From the reviews I’ve read from a booking site, it is one of the top-rated in Malaysia. But I didn’t settle for one website alone, I googled a lot to get as much information about the hostel. F laughed at me when I told him to check out the Hostel’s Facebook page. He said that I am very paranoid and that the reviews in the booking site should be enough. I showed him the pictures that the hostel is located in a very strategic place, being very close to the monorail station in their shopping district, that there is a pharmacy, a clinic, convenience stores, clothing store, malls across the street and even fast food nearby and that, this is very important, THERE IS A POLICE STATION just few steps away from the Hostel’s entrance.

He asked me… “So the sight of the police station outside made you agree to take the hostel?”

I said Yes! Hahaha… But I’m still not 100% convince to take it I said. He suggested though that I book a private room with its own bathroom if I am uncomfortable with the common baths and so I have privacy. As for him, he is a traveler and stayed in many hostels in Europe so sharing rooms with others and even the bath isn’t an issue. Only that this time, he requires staying in a male-only dorm not to get into trouble with his uber conservative family and fiancé.

I went on checking more pictures of the rooms and told him, I don’t want a windowless room.

He chuckled and said, “I hope you won’t be like this when we travel around KL… you have so many requirements!”

I asked, “What are you trying to say then, that I am high maintenance?”

Still laughing he answered, “Yes” but then quickly added, “But I understand why you are this concern, it will be your first time in a Hostel.”

Yeah sort of my first time, especially in a foreign country, but I’ve stayed in one when I went with mom to Baguio for a church-related conference. The difference is that I knew almost everyone staying there since we booked the entire hostel and that it is in my country, my territory.

I asked him, “Do you think I can stay in the female-only dorm-type room?”

He said, “Yes, why not.”

“You think I am that brave to sleep at night with ‘strangers’ in the room?”

He said, “Yes you are.”

“You think I can stay in a room with girls, who are most likely to be from different countries?”

He said, “Yes. You’ve already seen a naked woman right?”

I freaked out and exclaimed “WHAT?!!!!”

He said, “I’m kidding. Hahaha… Maybe they’ll just walk around the room in their underwears.”

“Oh…” was all I could utter. I was almost speechless. Man, I can only do that with my sisters or mom in the room not other people.

I told him, I might consider the female-only dorm-type room first because it is a lot cheaper as private rooms are almost the same price as the hotels, and second because, it is going to be a new experience for me and a good chance to meet new people. And I thought I should loosen up a bit. Then he went on to assure me that it will be fine, that I will be fine.

Then he said, “Okay now, let’s book. You book first.”

It took me a while to respond because I was checking out hotels nearby after our other friend, ‘best friend Idy’ suggested that I stay in a Hotel instead. I was confused. Idy has a point. I should book for a hotel instead for my safety.

I went back to F and said, “Wait. Wait. Wait”

Confused, he asked, “Why? What happened?”

I told him, I’m still not sure of the hostel and I’m considering a hotel. All he could say was, “Women!” LOL. But he is already decided to stay at the hostel and we agreed that if ever I want a hotel, it should be around the area so he can easily pick me up in the morning and take me back to the hotel at night. Idy even suggested the same thing.

Then after a few days of sorting out my options and seeking suggestions from my family and Idy, I decided to take the female-only dorm room in the Hostel. LOL. I booked and paid the 10% required deposit plus the service charge. The remaining balance should be paid in cash on my last day at the hostel.

I immediately told F, who is already roaming around Asia by the time, about the booking I made in the same hostel and my brave decision to take the dorm-type room. He replied saying “Good. See you soon then.”

But…. But… But…

LOL. Yes, there is a but…

As of this writing, things might still change… I’m still looking at the option of staying in a secured HOTEL room after my mother told me about the bad dream she had about me just the other night. Told F about it and he okayed it. 🙂

Call me paranoid or fickle-minded (I am a woman, I have the right to change my mind after 2 seconds. LOL) but I am not taking that dream for granted. It could be a warning or something. Plus, I had to please my parents so they will stop worrying.

And I am NOT high maintenance. I am just guarding myself. 🙂

Date A Girl Who Reads By Rosemarie Urquico

17 Aug

** I love this piece by Ms. Urquico. I love reading it over and over and over, and I won’t even get tired and sick of reading it. It’s beautifully written and very true. I could relate. 🙂 

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by God, she’s going to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Asian, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

I like it on the couch!

10 Oct

Just this week, a lot of women in facebook – teens, young adults and even mothers posted intriguing messages on their facebook profiles. “I like on the couch; I like it on the bed; I like it on the kitchen counter; I like it on the floor; I like it anywhere” were the usual I’ve seen. These messages made a lot of their friends, mostly male friends intrigue and curious about what these messages mean. Well of course, we all know what they’re thinking. *wink! wink!* LOL.

If you’re a female, you probably have received a message in your inbox about how this game works. According to the email, the game started last year and turned out successful as it even made it to the national television what the women were up to! Well this isn’t a naughty message at all. The game’s purpose is to increase awareness on Breast Cancer as October is the Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

I won’t post it here how the game works but I’d like to share it here to help others be aware of Breast Cancer.

(I don’t own the pictures below. I just googled them and thought I’d post it here.)

Caffeine and PMS

21 Aug

In my recent visit to my doctor due to Upper RTI, he told me to cut down on caffeine.  Yes, coffee.  And the other day, while I was having coffee at my favorite coffee shop (yes, I’m bad. Not following my doctor’s order. hehe), I read from a magazine what caffeine and sweets can do to your body that eventually will result to the irritating mood swings.

So I did my internet research on caffeine and sweets about them triggering the mood swings in women.  I don’t exactly remember every words, but it says something like caffeine is a drug and it causes your body to be on a ‘fight or flight’ mode.  Caffeine triggers the release of the stress hormones that you may use to prepare yourself for a dangerous situation, like what they cited, a war. But like for me, who just sits at my desks at the office, it may not be necessary.  Of course, moderate consumption of caffeine is fine. Well, everything that is in moderation is better.

But my consumption is way beyond the moderation. I am a coffee lover. Or addict, whichever suits best. I love sweets too. Chocolates are my vitamins. =) haha… and it is so hard to resist them. Unfortunately according to my internet research, they both have effects on my body particularly in my mood.  And true enough, I experience mood swings. There will always be days or weeks in a month that I get annoyed easily, irritated, overly sensitive and become a crybaby.  I hate it. I don’t like the feeling. I don’t like undergoing such stage wherein one minute you are happy, but the next you are sobbing. That’s just so crazy. It doesn’t make me feel good and it affects my relationship to others. It even ruined my relationship with my ex. Damn.

Oh well, so now I am having this experiment on myself. I will not drink any coffee for a month and will really try to avoid anything with caffeine. Sweets…. I will also avoid them, especially chocolates. I will see what wonders  it will do to me and my moods. I will see if they are really the culprit to my everchanging moods.

So I am daring myself:

*No coffee or anything with caffeine for a month
*No sweets too

I just started two days back and I haven’t had any coffee. Weeeeee!!!!!

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